Are you stressed, frazzled, desperate and tired? Perhaps you are a new mother, who was joyful when you brought your baby home from the hospital. Yet, you feel sleep deprived and the laundry and dishes continue to pile up. Feeling fatigued, you wonder how all the other women in the world have survived motherhood. I plan to give you a solution to your problems from the word of God, but let us first look at how most deal with this problem.
What do you do as a desperate housewife and mother?
You do exactly what every young mother in the year 2014 does, you rush to the internet for some “Mommy Advice”. There are many blogs to choose from, along with books galore. Everyone seems to be an expert these days.
But who should you listen to?
These popular blogs and books, leave me feeling inadequate as a mother and woman. Who are these perfect mothers who start play groups, have perfectly organized homes, while their children’s lunchbox contents are works of art? I am sure you have seen their pictures on Pinterest.
What about being a Proverbs 31 woman?
There are also many types of blogs and books to teach you how to be the perfect Proverbs 31 woman. This proverb comes straight from the lips of King Lemuel’s mother. She describes a worthy woman in thirty-one verses. As I look at these books and blogs, I ask myself, “Will it take me following all thirty-one verses to be a virtuous woman?” I am exhausted just thinking about it. I also ask myself another question, “Should I follow these biblical words of wisdom?”
Help, information overload!
If you are like me, you are probably feeling more desperate than ever. How are you to raise these little children whom God has blessed you with, follow all the parenting advice and be the Proverbs 31 woman?
The solution is found in the word of God
I am going to give you the perfect parenting and womanly advice you can hear. This advice is not actually from me, but from the mouth of Jesus. These words of wisdom are the motto of my life. . .
“But Martha was distracted with much serving, and she approached Him and said, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Therefore tell her to help me. And Jesus answered and said to her, ‘Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her’” Luke 10:40-42 (NKJV).
Jesus does not expect you to be the perfect Proverbs 31 woman. This was the Old Testament woman. The woman of bondage. You don’t need to be like the bond woman, Hagar, but like the free woman, Sarah.
“Tell me, you who want to be under law, do you not listen to the law? For it is written that Abraham had two sons, one by the bondwoman and one by the free woman. But the son by the bondwoman was born according to the flesh, and the son by the free woman through the promise. This is allegorically speaking, for these women are two covenants: one proceeding from Mount Sinai bearing children who are to be slaves; she is Hagar. Now this Hagar is Mount Sinai in Arabia and corresponds to the present Jerusalem, for she is in slavery with her children. But the Jerusalem above is free; she is our mother” Galatians 4:21-26 (NASB).
Free yourselves from the bondage. The world tries to convince you all these rules will make you a successful woman and mother.
Immerse yourself in God’s Word
Learn how to immerse yourself in God’s word. Spend time in prayer at the feet of Jesus. Then, you will be a woman of strength, who can leap any mountain of laundry with a single bound. You will learn how to be the perfect parent as you hide the word of God in your heart. You will no longer feel desperate when the trials come, but will be able to “count it all joy”. You will also learn that you cannot shape your child’s heart, but only God can. You train them, but God causes the growth.
I have had a premature baby and a baby with torticollis. I have chronic back pain and tendonitis. I never know when I wake up whether I will be pain free or not. One body part might ache or all of it aches. I cannot possible by the perfect Proverbs 31 woman with all these physical ailments, but I can be a Mary. Every woman can be a Mary.
What has the Lord taught me through the pain and suffering?
He has taught me how to be the perfect woman, because I have learned to be the free woman. I have learned to rest at the feet of Jesus. I do not have to be the perfect housewife, working parent, single parent and/or mother, because where I fail, the Lord sends someone else in my children’s path to fill the gaps. There are children’s ministers, youth ministers, teachers, relatives and friends to help me along life’s journey.
Take the time to open the pages of the world’s all-time best seller, the Bible. It will teach you how to be the perfect wife, mother, teacher and friend. Jesus said. . .
“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. ‘Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light’” Matthew 11:28-30 (NASB).
If you do not attend church, then find a good, Biblically based church and go regularly. Join a Bible study and immerse yourself in the word. I also recommend finding a mentor from your church. Choose a Titus 2 type woman, who is older than you and has raised her children. Always seek out godly wisdom from women you can trust. If you do not have a mentor, then ask the Lord to send you one. If you follow Jesus’ advice, you will make it through those difficult years of early motherhood. You will also make it through any trial which comes your way.